Influential Selling with the Enneagram | EQ World

Vindce Aw

Marketing Manager, Penta-Ocean Construction

Before discovering the Enneagram, I always saw myself as a fun, easygoing and jovial person. I thought being “fun” was simply a positive trait — something that made people enjoy being around me. As a core Type 7, I believed that everything in my life had to be fun — otherwise I would quickly lose interest or disengage.

What I didn’t realise was that even “fun” has different levels. Through the Enneagram, I learnt that there is a difference between developed and undeveloped expressions of it. Looking back, I began to recognise that my version of “fun” was sometimes a way to avoid discomfort, deflect deeper emotions, or keep things light so I didn’t have to face what was really going on.

At the same time, I started to notice something else — some of my friends were slowly distancing themselves, and I didn’t fully understand why. I would often reframe it as them being busy, but deep down, something didn’t quite sit right.

Through the Enneagram and EQ World’s programmes, I began to see myself more clearly. I realised that my energy could sometimes come across as too intense or overwhelming. When things didn’t go my way, I could become a stronger, more controlling version of myself without even being aware of it.

That was quite a confronting but important realisation — understanding that it wasn’t just circumstances, but also how I was showing up.

What I appreciated about EQ World’s approach is that it wasn’t judgmental. Instead, it gave me the language and awareness to understand my patterns, pause, and choose how I want to respond.

More importantly, I’ve come to realise that fun doesn’t always have to come from what I’m doing — it’s also about how I experience things. Even routine or challenging situations can be meaningful and enjoyable when I show up differently.

Over time, I’ve become more grounded, more present, and less forceful in how I interact with others. And interestingly, I began to see changes in my relationships as well — friends started coming back, and many have shared that they find me more approachable and easier to connect with now.

Today, I still value being fun and light-hearted, but it comes from a more developed and conscious place. I’m more intentional, more aware of myself and others, and better able to manage how I show up. This journey has been deeply meaningful, both personally and professionally, and I’m grateful for the growth it has brought into my life.